Singing with Your Baby and the Intellect Behind Nursery Rhymes
The itsy bitsy spider kept going up that water spout and would never stop! Regardless of how many times we cried as babies or wanted to play, that itsy bitsy spider never failed to please us. It’s these rhymes, songs, melodies, and even sounds that stay with us all our lives as we pass it down to our children, family members, and even our pets!
In an article about the musical self, Psychology Today notes that in 2009, researchers from Hungary and the Netherlands reported that, by measuring baby brain waves when listening to rhythms, day-old infants are able to detect differences between them. This wasn’t a learned skill. It was innate.
Innate means that these are skills and knowledge we are born with to survive which means there is a link between music and an infant’s development.
Sing and Play
Introduce your baby to music by singing to them rather than playing music to them. Do not put headphones around your baby as their body is still developing and is fragile. Hum or sing softly as you feed your baby or carry them around to initiate the start of a strong and electric bond between you and your baby.
Continue the harmonious act of bonding by singing with your baby well into their toddler stages as music slowly becomes a natural part of their life. According to KidsHealth, an early introduction to music can kickstart learning, serve as an important cue in a child’s routine, and offer lifelong benefits. KidsHealth continues to state that music contributes to what experts call, “a rich sensory environment,” which means exposing your baby or toddler to a wide variety of tastes, smells, textures, colors, and sounds—experiences that can forge more pathways between the cells in their brains.
Keeping music alive in your kids life can come easily, even if you are preoccupied with putting dinner on the table or preparing a fun and musical adventure for your child. For babies, a nursery center with a built in music center can help ease baby to sleep while stimulating the creative part of their brain and enriching neural connections.
For toddlers and children as well, being exposed to music is like listening to and learning another language at a young age. Learning how to play an instrument has many subconscious benefits that can help a child later in life as well! An About.com article about the Benefits of Education quotes scientists as saying that children who are exposed to music, or those who play an instrument, do better in school than those who don’t. In fact, recent research suggests exposure to music may benefit a child’s reading age, IQ and the development of certain parts of the brain. Adults can benefit from learning to play an instrument too because it helps the mind to be alert and remain active eventually helping to sharpen the memory.
So pick up an instrument or carry a tune and help your baby, child, or toddler whistle along to the day!
Is there a song you or your baby especially loves?
Fun, silly games to play with your baby to aid development
Go to your local coffee shop and you’ll see mothers and their toddlers both with iPads in their hands. Toys and games went from tree houses and binkies to playing with virtual toys on an electronic tablet. Oh, how times have changed.
According to New York Road Runners (nyrrf.org), almost 25% of children do not participate in any free-time physical activity. Although activity among children seems to have decreased, games have become more developmentally friendly and brain-cell engaging.
Parents can use their e-tablets or even just their hands to play games with their baby to aid their development. Also, be sure to consult your pediatrician for best advice.
Light the Torch
Let the games begin with something small and something fun. At first, newborn babies don’t seem to want to do much of anything but eat and poop. Their brain cells are continuing to develop and their neurons are slowly but surely making connections. Playing developmental games with your baby at any age can help prime those neural pathways.
Peek-A-Boo is a simple game that babies seem to love. When you hide behind your hands after they see your face, your baby literally thinks you’ve disappeared. This is because babies are unable to psychologically grasp the concept of object permanence. Object permanence is the understanding that objects exist—can be seen and heard—even after they are long out of sight. From about birth to two years of age, babies do not understand this. Don’t let this stop you from playing with your baby, they love this game!
Lights, Camera, Interaction!
Go ahead and let your baby’s curiosity guide you. Does she veer toward colorful objects? Shiny things? Take your baby’s cues and hold objects she might be interested in about a foot away from her face. Let her observe and stare. You might find something new yourself!
Toys and random things lying around the house aren’t the only things that can help a baby’s development. Look into your closet to help your baby develop her tactile senses. Have her feel your clothes and even go outside to enjoy the sun by letting her observe at the park or even touch the grass. All while keeping a close watch on your baby, of course!
Just like their inability to grasp object permanence, babies are unable to understand that who they see in the mirror, is themselves! From birth to three months of age, play with your baby by placing them in a nursery center or bouncer that has toys hanging from the top. Talk to your baby and tap on the mirror to get her to look over. She’ll soon begin to realize that the person in the mirror is her!
These are just a few of the hundreds of baby games you can play with your little one.
Look to the sources below for more ideas!
What are your favorite games to play with your baby?
Understanding how Baby develops verbal skills
Sometimes, the problem with children is getting them to stop talking. Their curious minds rattle on with questions about how something works, or why something looks the way it does. Although we may not know how to get kids to stop talking, learning how they do talk is a science that interests researchers to this day.
Within the first two years of life, your baby will go through several stages leading up to understandable words and somewhat coherent sentences. Based on many developmental studies, learning how to talk is a gradual process. If your baby hits a milestone later than his little baby friend, that’s perfectly fine! Although speech is a gradual process, not every baby gets to a stage at the same time. However, please note that if you baby is significantly behind, consult your pediatrician for best assurance.
Babycenter.com is a great resource for gathering an idea of developmental milestones. Communication with your baby begins from birth, and maybe even sooner according to some resources. Birth to 3 months, a baby will make quiet cooing sounds. Even though they are just slight and elongated coos, your baby learns from reciprocated sounds. Within the following few months, intonation and repetition become a start to communicating with your baby. At around five to six months, your baby will turn that coo into a coo? That little change where they begin to understand questions is a big step towards furthering their communication and learning how to use all those bits and pieces that make their mouth.
As your baby approaches one year of age, they will begin to have “conversations” with you by babbling. Babbling is a developmental term, but also a very matter of fact term. Babies will try to imitate speech by putting consonants and vowels together like dah-dah-dee and take turns talking as if having a real conversation. Babbling is also a great sign that babies are starting to engage their cortical motor system as their brain matures.
Ever notice how when you “talk” to your baby, or come across a cute puppy, your voice gets high-pitched and you start talking nonsense? That nonsensical talk is called Motherese, and it’s perfectly fine to talk to your baby this way! Lay your baby down in a swing bouncer and have them engage with you and their surroundings. Teaching baby to multi-task is a great way to keep them entertained and help their brain development.
Sometimes, talking to your baby about what you are doing, and even what you are doing to them, i.e. I am changing your diaper or I am making your food is a great way to show your baby that objects and actions each have names.
Being in an enriching environment is a great start to helping your baby mature and grow.
Here is a good summary of a baby talk timeline as found on Parents.com:
The Science Behind the Development of Baby’s Personality
Remember growing up with your sibling or a close family member and slowly learning that you both have absolutely opposite personalities; social groups come along and you find yourself shying away while your older brother is the star of the show? Genetics doesn’t necessarily trump where you grew up, but your environment doesn’t defeat genetics either. This gentle push and pull between nature and nurture has been a long standing debate in the developmental world and is studied to this day.
Twin studies, as first researched by Francis Galton, a cousin of Charles Darwin, found similarities and dissimilarities that helped grasp a better idea of the differences between genetic and environmental factors. A study on genetics and the environment found that similar characteristics among identical twins reared apart might indicate that their genes played a major role in developing that trait. Different characteristics might indicate the opposite—that environmental influences assume a much stronger role.
All in all, what does this have to do with your baby? Although your baby’s personality is formed by an unpredictable mixture outside of the womb, certain factors lead to its personality while still in the womb! An expert panelist on early year’s play and child development on BabyCentre UK, Dorothy Einon, stated that the way your newborn behaves may be influenced by lots of temporary factors. Such factors include pregnancy hormones, your own health and diet, the length of your labor, the difficulty of birth, whether your baby was born early, and how quickly your baby’s brain matures.
Hot Headed Baby
Einon also finds that a baby’s temperament can be based on what is going on inside or around him/her: how regularly baby sleeps and feeds, how vigorously he moves, how easily he’s soothed or distracted, and how readily he accepts new food or people. Keeping your newborn close to you in a nursery center and entertained in bouncers as they get older might help them have a better temperament as they age.
All In The Timing
Now that you know that a baby’s personality starts to develop in the womb based on genetics, and the process of growth in utero, when exactly will you see these personality traits start to develop? Parenting magazine suggests that some traits are obvious almost from birth; others will become apparent by three or four months. And some may evolve in intensity. For instance, [your baby’s] low frustration level may improve as he/she gains confidence in their abilities, or their desire for activity may subside a bit as his/her attention span grows. Even the most challenging traits can become less problematic as a child learns to cope with life’s ups and downs and figures out what makes him/her happy — in conjunction with your support and guidance, of course.
It’s Universally Basic
A famous developmental psychologist, Erik Erikson, found through his studies that development is based on the epigenetic principle. This principle states that development occurs in a series of stages for everyone and that these stages happen in a predetermined sequence.
In layman’s terms, personality is largely shaped by an infant’s experiences and temperament is a key determinant to the way parents react to the infant’s behavior.
A happy, healthy, bubbly, bouncy baby is the product of much tender love and care. Instead of stressing about having a perfect environment, just be your happy self and your baby too will shine back with a smile.
Aiding the Growth of a Premature Child
Life is organized into several steps of development. Although gradual, experience has taught us human beings that life is more disorganized than not. Even a doctors’ educated guess as to the due date of a baby can be at fault when baby comes sooner than expected. Premature babies can grow up to be just a healthy as full-term babies but need a little more help playing catch up.
Erik Erikson, a popular child development researcher has done a plethora of research about developmental stages. He has two basic philosophies, one of which is:
The world gets bigger as we go along
To help babies continuously and happily grow in this big world, it’s in good nature for parents to have a basic understanding of what sets premature babies apart from their punctual peers.
According to babyfirst.com, a premature baby often has less muscle bulk and is usually “hypotonic”. This means her muscles are loose and floppy. It will often be hard for her to stay in a flexed position. Instead, she may end up with a more “frog-like” posture. Her trunk may look flat when she’s lying down, rather than rounded. With that in mind, careful attention should be paid to the development of the nervous system and such motor skills as smiling, sitting, walking, and positioning the muscles should be applauded.
The development of motor skills should not be a standalone achievement. Look for and aid speech and behavioral development consequently by creating an enriching environment. Comfortable “toys” like a bounce chair or a high chair will aid with muscle development and brain development.
Bounce chairs with amenities like hanging toys, mirrors, and even embedded speakers for music will grow your baby’s curiosity to aid them in our ever expanding world.
These may be signs your baby is ready to interact:
- Quiet, alert state. Eyes are opened and focused.
- Relaxed; not too stiff or limp.
- Arms and legs are tucked in. Hands are at mouth.
- Some smiling (by about six weeks corrected age), and eventually cooing.
These signs say “time out”; your baby needs a break:
- Looking away, glassy-eyed, stressed look
- Limp body
- Stiffening (pushing body out straight)
- Yawning, falling asleep
- Hiccups, spitting up
Lastly, as mentioned in a post about infant massage, the simple power of touch will not only be a great way to bond with your baby but will be a soothing experience where they are able to look around and make contact with other people and things around them.
The aforementioned is just a tip of the iceberg as to how your preemie may need extra information. Be sure to contact your baby’s pediatrician for appropriate developmental needs and use informative tools for education. The following links provide some great information about preemies:
Make working out fun by playing with your baby
With the start of the New Year only slightly behind us, gym-goers and at home workout video junkies are going full speed, letting no excuse get in the way of their calorie burning and mind enriching exercises. A few days or even weeks from now, resolutions become dreams and rest in between sets becomes rest indefinite. The little culprit that is a most common excuse to stay away from cardio machines is usually, a baby.
Even after baby arrives, parents should not feel tied down or separated from their workouts. Can you relate to wondering who will look after baby? Or I have a hard time leaving my baby with a sitter. These common concerns can be easily alleviated by not leaving your baby! How? Working out with baby is one of the best ways to bond and give your body the daily activity it needs.
Covalent Baby Bonding
Just as covalent bonds share pairs of electrons between atoms, baby bonding is sharing enriching experiences between mother and their little one. Exercising with your baby will not only strengthen the parent-child tie but it will start to shape a healthy lifestyle. Consistent physical activity will help your child sleep easier and will reduce your stress.
A more obvious perk of working out with your baby is that it keeps you healthy and exercising can prevent diseases while strength training can even prevent osteoporosis. According to Bone Builders, a group from the University of Arizona, the best exercises for building bone are weight- or load-bearing exercises such as weight-lifting, step aerobics, dancing, and other activities that require your muscles to work against gravity. Dance around your living room either with your baby in hand or in toe in their very own trend walker.
Need weights? Believe it or not, your baby makes the perfect weight to work with. Not only will you enjoy cuddle time with your baby, but placing your baby in a carrier around your body and doing simple stretches or just walking around the house are perfect and light load bearing exercises.
Even if your baby isn’t directly engaging in exercises with you, being near baby can be just as effective. Keep your baby safe in a durable play yard that is easy to fold up and travel with, so you can exercise with baby on the go!
An Active Baby Einstein
Working out with baby is highly beneficial to parents, but babies are also getting a lot in return. Exercising with baby helps them to move and learn coordination skills, not to mention, explore! Enriching their minds through curiosity and being able to see the world around them is important to a baby’s development. Is your baby not yet mobile? A simple play pen or even nursery with see-thru or mesh sides can just as much aid their inquisitive minds.
Continue their growth and your good health by creating a little circuit of workouts that are enjoyed by both you and your baby. Five minutes of dancing followed by mellow stretches and sets of squats, dips, step-ups or lunges using your baby as a weight is the perfect way to start. As your baby starts to get attuned to these minor physical exercises, do abdominal exercises on the floor while lifting baby above your head. Add on any exercises you feel comfortable with, and a mini gym can be enjoyed by you and baby!
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